How do you deal with misbehaving profound autism?
I just lost my shit on my daughter, 11 yo level 2/3.
She has meltdowns, but she definitely absolutely misbehaves too. She's been attacking her bus monitor for the past few months without a reason, and for the past two nights she absolutely pitches a tantrum when it's time for bed.
I do not want to be told she's "melting down", because that's not what's happening and I'm sick of being told that by people. It's misbehavior because she controls when she has these outbursts; and she does it to get what she wants. She does not have these same episodes with her dad, and she misbehaves at school in ways she doesn't at home. The school has contacted me, inquiring about certain behaviors she has around her teachers and aids that she does not do at the house. So I honestly tell them I can't help them correct her behavior since she doesn't do it at home and I don't know what they're referring to.
I'm at a loss and really don't know what to do. I really don't want to lose my shit on her, but I don't feel like I have any other option at this point because her behavior is not a result of her autism as much as it is deliberate.