Im so tired of how my family speaks about my grampy
Look I'll be the first to say it. My grampy is a jack ass. Hes nasty, selfish, and greedy. I spent most of my childhood being told I was a sinner and that im unloved and hated. Was that okay? No. But I've made peace with it.
Hes finally been diagnoses with dementia. And hes at a point where he should have been in. A nursing home 5 years ago. I dont live in the same area as the rest of the family and its been hard watching them honestly just be nasty towards him and borderline neglectful of his declining mental state.
Was grampy horrible to literally everyone? Yeah. And if he was in his right mind I would say let him. Rot. But that just it. Hes not. Hes not competent and it isnt morally right to deny him proper care and time and attention just because he was a huge dickhead.
Im pretty positive that it was my multiple calls to social services about his well being that the goverment stepped in to have him evaluated.
Maybe its because i work in Healthcare, or that im not around it. They keep treating him like he can understand reason, but he doesnt. Hes got fucking dementia. Like its bordering bullying they way they speak to him.
It isnt like hes completely unreasonable. Ive had conversations with him about this. Talked to him about how his poor behavior and years of being nasty are why everyone avoids him. When you talk to him gently and as a matter of fact rather than beating around the bush, he accepts it. But again. He has dementia. You have to have the conversations with him more than once a day. But they just dont have the grace to give that to him. They just get into screaming matches with him when hes upset.
Im just at a lose. Its wild to me that all my life I was a big punching bag for him and here I am as an adult being the only one who has patience for him.
I dont know.
I dont need advice. Hes probably going to a home soon. But it still hurts my heart