Any tips on dealing with an overly negative friend?
I've had a friend for a few years who i'm pretty close with, she's always been expressive but she's gradually become really negative. I've noticed myself feeling annoyed with things she says or does, she complains about everything (like getting gas) and makes it seem like it's the worst thing that could happen. We had a conversation where i was pretty direct and said she needed to start taking responsibility (she had been complaining about the same thing for 2 months that had an easy fix and i offered to help). I could tell she was offended and basically just redirected and gave excuses as to why it's valid. We haven't hung out as much but every time we talk it's still the same energy. I get people go through shit but it gets to the point where it's just laziness and refusing to take accountability for your own actions.
She's also really sensitive, so it's really hard for her to blow off day to day interactions with people. If it's the cashiers tone, or side eye or whatever, she takes it really personal. This has made it to the point where she comes off a bit like a karen, she complains to her landlord a lot and has screamed at her neighbors through the walls. I know people go through episodes of depression, so I'm trying to be understanding. I try to be tactful and give her my opinion on some things but i think it just comes off more like i'm criticizing. I think I need to figure out a more tactful approach and maybe ask questions instead of giving unwanted advice and feeling like i'm attacking her. But I also can't just blindly support some of the things she does, i can tell it really affects her relationships with people and makes her come off in a bad light. I know she has the ability to be chill and probably just needs therapy so I don't want to just cut her off.
Any advice on dealing with someone like this?