u/CopingJewlery

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I'm struggling right now with my body image and wondering, how do moms do it? How do some of you get your fit body back?

I struggled with body image ever since middle school and depression piggy backed on my "I'm not pretty enough to be loved" thoughts. In late high school I played water pool, hiked and was a lifeguard so I got super fit. I got to a place where I was really happy.

I'm 5 feet tall with a stalky muscular figure. My super fit body was 130-135lbs. In college and when I initially got married I hovered around the 140lbs range because I wasn't constantly active like in HS. I was content with my life style and body.

When I got pregnant I expected the weight gain ans body changed. At the end of both of my pregnancies I topped out at 170lbs. My first pregnancy I was back down to 140lbs 9 months after birth. But now, 18 months after giving birth to my second baby, I'm stuck at 160lbs. Exercise doesn't feel good anymore, the good feeling aches that use to come with exercise present themselves as headaches and ouch arm and back aches that make it really hard to be happy when taking care of my 2 very active boys.

I know what it's like to be fit, I know how to work out safe, and I feel like my goal of 140lbs isn't unreasonable. I just feel so stuck and I don't know how to start in a way that I keep exercise going consistently enough to create a different habbit and lifestyle than I have right now.

How did you deal with body changes? And how did you find the line of 'this is what it is' and 'suck it up and do what you need to do to loose weight' even if it feels bad?

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u/CopingJewlery — 14 days ago
▲ 3 r/autisminrelationships+1 crossposts

Conventional marriage counseling fails neuro diverse marriages because the counselor doesn't understand ASD processing.

Real time emotional processing can trigger sensory overload and can come off as indifference

The nervous systems of Neurodiverse and Neurotypical spouses processing connection differently.

- Mark Hutten, M.A. Neurodiverse couple counselor

https://youtube.com/shorts/BF1y3hzrfGc?si=Ee1qkV9JcZ9TQzuf

u/CopingJewlery — 21 days ago