I’ve been reflecting a lot lately, and I’ve got a question on my mind: is it possible for a girl like me to find a partner in the future who truly gets it? When I say I have nerdy hobbies, I mean deeply and unapologetically. I’m the one geeking out over every comic book release (Absolute Joker character? Absolute brilliance), diving into DC’s revival under James Gunn (Take that Marvel ! DC’s on the rise), and getting lost in anime and manga. These aren’t just hobbies for me; they’re a core part of who I am. You probably wouldn’t guess it just by looking at me, but when the conversation turns to my interests, that’s when you see the real me.
And don’t think I’m not sharing my love of all things nerdy. I've definitely dragged my friends into my interests (still remember my favorite Ben 10 watch and making them see the new Superman).
It’s not just comics and anime, though. History is another obsession of mine. I’m fascinated by how different periods shaped the world. Whether it’s the intellectual achievements of the Islamic Golden Age, the military innovations of the Mongol Empire, or the cultural revolutions of the Renaissance, there’s something deeply satisfying about diving into these periods. I get lost in exploring the complexities of how civilizations rise, fall, and influence the world we live in today. Hence, my bucket list on places to travel too is long.
I’d love to travel the world and visit niche things. Like the last remaining traditional tea houses or apothecaries (love Apothecary Diaries) in Kyoto or trying authentic hand-pulled noodles in a hidden alleyway in Xi’an, or the Inca ruins and more.
I love reading, and one of my dreams is to have a library in my home with one of those classic sliding ladders (you know, like in Beauty and the Beast). Dracula by Bram Stoker is my all-time favorite. It’s not just a classic; it’s a dark exploration of fear, obsession, and the human condition. It’s probably why I loved Castlevania so much, the themes felt like a natural continuation of that world.
But I don’t limit myself to the classics. Manga and anime have had a profound influence on me. Naruto taught me perseverance in the face of adversity. Dragon Ball Z sparked my obsession with power scaling. Slam Dunk opened my eyes to the raw passion that drives athletes, and Inuyasha made me appreciate the complexity of time travel and relationships. Then there’s Ashita No Joe, which ignited my passion for the grit and heart of boxing. And let’s not even get into Jujutsu Kaisen and My Hero Academia: the fight choreography, character growth, and emotional depth are unreal.
I also love shows with historical settings: Peaky Blinders, Vikings, merlin, and more.
My Crunchyroll account? It’s sacred (lol, came a long way from truly being a pirate and using other websites). If you’re in my life, you’re automatically part of the anime binge squad. And don’t get me started on Studio Ghibli: Spirited Away, Princess Mononoke, Howl’s Moving Castle, I could watch them on repeat for the rest of my life. The way Ghibli’s stories resonate with deep themes of nature, humanity, and art is something I could spend hours talking about. My kids will be cultured damn-it. Honestly, if there’s a Ghibli film coming back to theaters, you’ll find me front and center, soaking it all in.
Other weird hobbies of mine: I’ve been practicing archery for years, ever since I first saw Green Arrow in the comics. That character made me want to try it for myself, and I’ve been hooked ever since. (Green Arrow seasons 1-4? Peak television.) I’ve also recently gotten into martial arts, and Alhamdulilah, it’s been an incredibly rewarding journey. My next goal? Horseback riding ( Did I mention I love Mulan yet? Bc this whole post is giving I'll make a man out of you ).
I want to get into gaming one day when I have more time. And chess? Well, I’ve been undefeated for so long that my brother still hasn’t forgiven me. I like to think of myself as the reigning champ for now.
But here’s the thing (sorry for the rant): when my friends talk about marriage, I can’t help but feel a little disconnected. Deep down, I worry that I’ll never find someone who truly understands me so it put me off marriage all together. Feel like it will only happen in jannah ya know. To be able to have a person who lets me nerd out without judgment, who can debate whether Genghis Khan vs Alexander the Great, or who’ll gladly listen to me argue that Tim Drake is the best Robin (Aisha, if you see this, I said what I said). I want to be able to say Abaha Cunn (a joke) and then turn around and make a Batman: The Brave and the Bold reference right after without feeling weird. I don't want to put myself in a box ya know.
I feel like the odd one out because, honestly, I couldn’t care less about clan discussions or marrying based on Qabil. I have Somali pride, don’t get me wrong, and I love my culture but I have little hope (not looking now but just thinking).
At the end of the day, I don’t take myself too seriously. Is it possible to find people that wont force you to give up who you are to be the all-around perfect traditional somali wife ? let me know sisters 😄
*update sorry to the mods for choosing the wrong flair- I’m still new to this community 🫡