u/Cool-Tangelo-2214

Hi! I have a partner whom I helped go to Canada for work. We have two kids together. My family also helped support him financially so he could go there. It has already been 3 years and he is still not yet a permanent resident, although his application is in progress.

For about a year, our long-distance relationship was good. But after that, he started hiding things from me. He has been giving most of his money to his family, buying them luxuries, paying debts from gambling, and sending large balikbayan boxes without even informing me. Meanwhile, the things he sends for his own children are very minimal. Yes, he still gives financial support, but beyond that, nothing more.

I also found out that he may already have another woman there because our relationship has not been good anymore. What hurts more is that his family is even encouraging him to find another woman since we are not married.

I have no problem with him helping his parents financially, but it should only be within what he can actually afford. He is still not a permanent resident there and should be saving money if he really plans to bring us to Canada someday. We also need to prepare for a house and a car eventually. But instead, he is paying for his family’s gambling debts, electricity and water bills, appliance installments, and even their daily food expenses. It feels like they are depending on him for everything.

In short, he sends three times more money to his family than to us, his own partner and children.

It is painful because I was the one who pushed and helped him when we had nothing, yet it seems like he forgot all of that. I feel bad for my children because they also do not have proper savings for their health and education.

When I found out about the other woman, I still tried to fix our relationship, but he no longer wanted to. My relatives also talked to him, but he denied everything. I only learned the truth from his brother’s wife.

Before, I was still unsure whether I should report him for deportation for the sake of my children, but now I feel more determined because even if we eventually go there, it seems like nothing will change. I would rather work harder and find my own way to bring my children to Canada someday since my brother is already there.

Please help me understand how deportation works in Canada. If my reason is that we are no longer on good terms and he has another woman, would that matter? What if he denies it? Is it possible for him to become a permanent resident while still not bringing us there?

Please respect my situation, and thank you for your support.

Hi! I have a partner whom I helped to work in Canada. We have 2 kids. My family helped us financially to support him going there and it’s been 3 years but not yet permanent resident (in progress). We have a good relationship for about a year being in a long distance pero after noon nagsisikreto na sya sakin, he’s been giving all his money to his family buying all there luho, utang from gambling, sending big packages (lahat hindi ako aware) while yung sa mga anak nya is naka plastic lang. Yes, he’s giving sustento naman pero other than that wala na. Nabalitaan ko pa na nagbabae sya dun dahil not good na relationship namin. Pinupush pa sya ng family na maghanap nalang ng ibang babae since dinaman kami kasal wth. I have no problem in him giving money to his parents pero sana yung kaya lang ng budget since hindi pa sya permanent resident doon at need magipon if ever kunin nya kami. Need din magpundar ng bahay at kotse if ever pero yung ikaw magbabayad ng utang ng fam mo from gambling tapos mga bayarin sa kuryente, tubig, mga installment na appliances, pati ulam na sakanya din pinaasa parang sobra na. In short, triple ang nasesend nyang pera sa family instead samin na asawa at anak. Nakakainis lang na ako yung nagpush at tumulong sakanya nung walang wala kami pero parang hindi nya yon naisip. Nakakaawa ang mga anak ko kung wala din silang sariling savings for health and education. I tried na makipagayos nung nalaman kong may iba syang babae pero ayaw na nya. Kinausap sya ng relatives ko pero dinedeny nya and nalaman ko nalang ang lahat sa asawa ng kapatid nya. Before pinagiisapan ko pa kung idedeport ko sya para sa mga anak ko pero ngayon parang determinado nako kasi wala din if mapupunta kami doon. I’ll just strive harder para ako nalang magdala sa mga anak ko sa Canada since andun din naman brother ko.

Please help paano magdeport sa canada? If ang irereason out ko is not on good terms nakami at may iba na sya? What if dineny nya? Possible ba sya ma PR tapos kame hindi nya makuha? Please respect and appreciate your support.