u/Cookieman_2023

Take the I-5 for example. Whenever I cross from BC to Washington, the moment I cross from peace arch into blaine where the I-5 starts, the highway becomes loud and rumbling pretty much all the way to Seattle and presumably beyond. I looked on Google street view and noticed that the pavement is different and lighter in color with what looks like rocks underneath. Is that the case for all highways? Are these just aging infrastructure or intentionally designed to be rough?

For my whole life, I've been made to feel like a loser. It seems that I can never meet their expectations. It's just endless complaints and tirades blasted at my face. They always find some fault in me to make me feel sad, guilty, shame and endless shame. I'm starting to realize that what they're doing is more focused on causing hurt than actually getting the results they want, but they deny their treatment towards me as abuse.

Now, one half of my brain is starting to think that I will never be able to live up to expectations because I feel like it keeps on changing. I feel like their sudden spontaneous yelling at me for little reason in that moment other than bringing up the same old grievance points over and over again seems inconsistent. It's like the goal post keeps getting moved to the point that if I do something, if it's not up to their performance standards or I screw something up, I get yelled at. If I become too afraid to do something to the point that I'm becoming passive, I also get yelled at. It always end up with the same reasons of dumping on me.

Now I know the obvious reason is to move out. Problem is financially, I'm chained. I don't have enough money and borrowing loans is risky. Plus, for some unknown reason, when I think about actually making a plan to do it, I get a rush of anxiety because of all the things I have to cover like research for a place, utilities, grocery bills and how many ways things can go wrong. But also, I may feel guilty for doing so because there's a part of me telling me that I'm causing hurt if I do that. It's like I don't even trust my own judgements because I was never taught to think for myself and opposition is not tolerated. At the very same time, they hate it when I'm acting dependent on them even though their psychological conditioning since childhood made me the way I am. Then again, I could be wrong and it's very easy for them to downplay or deny their behavior is causing issues and I feel confused.

I'm in such a bad state and counselling so far has not been able to reach to this point and understand what I'm going through. I believe all my problems irl of being passive, believing/obeying anything that's said to me as well as lack of self esteem and quietness originated from the way I was treated at home and it spilled over. I became resentful, but also still fearful despite turning 24 this year. My childhood was obsession with getting into uni, no sleepovers, no hanging out with friends, always math tutoring and chinese school on the weekends. Now they 180 and complain that all i do is study, eat and go to bed with nothing else in my life. No hobbies, no outside skills. But they never allowed me to discover myself even to this day so i feel being kicked wall to wall.

In Canada, we call the them washrooms and it's written like that in public places. However, I noticed that when crossing the border to the US side, they're written as restrooms. Do you guys call them that instead? There's also a video on youtube a while ago that Americans also call them bathrooms, but that's uncommon here. It's not really a place for taking baths or resting so I'm curious about the naming

When I looked up "reasons to move to usa from canada", I instead got results of the opposite. Almost all of it. The people who successfully made it down there and are successful and happy don't seem to talk about it for some reason. I aspire to do the same, but it sounds politically incorrect to do so atm. From what I heard, Canadians have boycotted travel to the US, but I don't follow their way of thinking. I made it my goal and I'll stick to it.

In general, why do you think it's such an unpopular thing to do or it's just the internet? Idk why there's so many spaces on being anti-US but very little in being pro-US.

I'm such Canadian. The country has become unrecognizable. When I cross into the US, things feel like what they were 10 years ago before all this circus show started with Trudeau. It used to be the case that the country is normal. You go to McDonald's and you'll meet the friendly high school employees there who were once in the same elementary school as you and everyone is a homie. Now, every McD's, Tim Hortons, Church's Chicken, Uber driver and gas station employee is someone from India. I will give it 5 years time before CBSA is made up of officers from India as well. Canada is officially New Delhi now.

I've set my life's goal of immigrating to the US. Now, I have a greater reason to! They banned a whole bunch of guns in 2020 thanks to a shooter who didn't even obtain his legally. Now they added a whole bunch more to the list, froze handgun sales and are contemplating banning the SKS hunting rifle as well, especially after the recent mass shooting. After that, you pretty much can own nothing at all. You also can't defend yourself while in public or you'll go to jail. Can't even bring pepper spray, let alone a taser or gun. You are deliberately made at the mercy of the government for your protection. Healthcare is also dictated with no alternative options to pay yourself to get faster service like they do in Australia or Germany.

People have no idea what Canada really is. It's trash in a lot of ways and yet, people think it's a paradise.