I found my cousin on a fashion sub here. But before I tell the lore let me give a background first. My father has an elder brother and both the families don't talk at all. Not even at any relatives wedding or any function where we see each other. The reason is my chachi being jealous of my mummy and her delusion . We cut all ties a few years before the pandemic.
Firstly both the brothers had love marriage but my father's was opposed a bit cause my mummy is jain while father is punjabi. Whereas my chachi is sindhi but she says that sindhi and punjabis are closely related so its ok in their case. Also I am the only boy child cause my cousin is a female so the family business was assumed to be mine in the future (but neither me or my parents thought so only chachi did). So cracks started developing. Then comes the evil relatives of my chachi who poisoned her mind such that she started objecting the choice of clothes my mummy wore because it affected the "izzat of the khandan".
Basically she used to slut shame my mummy indirectly by her relatives or friends. For instance at the wedding of a relative of my chachi , my mummy wore a backless blouse and even though chachi didn't say anything directly but the relatives from her side were talking about it in the party and made mummy to uncomfortable . Happened alot not just for clothes but also on stuff like her cooking , her way of talking , her music choice and etc etc.
The final straw which I happened to witness was a friend of my chachi came over for tea and her usual bitching session in the evening. That was the bday of my mummy and she wore this nice saree and blouse which was quite expensive and a gift from my father to her that day. This lady saw her and as a taunt , sarcastic way which she could pull off as funny and not serious she said - no matter how slutty and r*ndi like blouses she wears my chachi would still be the prettiest .
We left the house the next month. There was a big fight between the brothers and it was decided we would get a plot and a small store which was on rent and the elder brother would get the business and the house. My father was fine cause he didn't want to escalate the fight with his brother and also he and his friend had a business idea which they started after this stuff so its all good.
Now the most prominent stuff that happened was chachi and her friends/relatives taunting or shaming mummy on her clothes. Now comes the twist and I dont mean to slut shame anyone but yesterday I found out that cousin is on reddit where she posted a normmal pic of hers in a fashion sub and in her profile she shared her insta id. I didnt know it was her until I opened the id. Its pvt but the thing is in her dp she put a pic of herself wearing a bikini. LOL.
I find it funny cause it was her mummy who used so question the choice of my mummy for her clothes back in the day and was like khandan ki izzat etc etc and now her own daughter is posing in a bikini. The IRONY. Also i'm shit jealous of my cousin cause they are richer than we cause. Even though the business of my family is enough to give us a comfortable life but the og business is bigger than the one we have now. That's all. PEACE.
tldr; years ago, my aunt criticized my mother relentlessly over what she wore, claiming it threatened the family’s honor. The reason we separated from them cause of constant taunts and stuff. Now, seeing her own daughter confidently sharing bikini photos online makes me pause and get the IRONY of life.