I was listening to a podcast about herpes and dating, and it’s talking about how disclosing to new partners supposedly shows you everything you need to know like if they’re mature, if they really care, etc. But honestly, that just doesn’t resonate with me. Before I had herpes, if I was on a second date with someone, I would never risk a lifelong STD for a casual fling. I have kids, my life is busy, and I’m not in a place to be in a serious relationship right now. So I get really frustrated when and all I see is “you’ll find your perfect person who loves and accepts all of you!!”, that would never happen for me—even before herpes. I’m just feeling fucking frustrating because I feel like I’m being told I have to keep waiting for some ideal I don’t even believe in.
I don’t expect people to risk herpes for casual. And I question someone who would. wtf. This is such a mind fuck