So many of the posts I’ve read throughout the past few years sound like they are coming from partners cut from a similar cloth. The words often used when describing themselves are “patient, supportive, kind, understanding, and loving”. As a PMDD partner myself (38m) I would describe myself with these words as well.
I’m an introverted liberal. I bet most of you are as well.
I’m accepting, tolerant and compassionate. I feel like possessing these traits is a must in order to maintain in a relationship with someone afflicted with PMDD.
I mean, could you imagine your token right wing conservative male putting up with the behavior that we deal with on a monthly basis ?
I imagine it would be a lot of fire and brimstone throughout a very short lived relationship. In my opinion, these type of men simply lack the personality traits that PMDD needs in their partner in order to have any hope at forming a long term relationship.
Sometimes I wonder if I’ve turned into a total push over. I wonder if, rather than continuing to walk on eggshells, get screamed at over trivial things, and irrationally blamed for anything and everything, I should try the “fighting fire with fire” approach.
I wonder if the PMDD hostility actually thrives on an over abundance of tolerance and patience shown by their partners.
There were two occasions when I absolutely lost it during an argument in her peak luteal (37 f) and it lead to ME terminating the relationship for a change.
Wouldn’t you know it, a few days later she reached out and apologized. It’s not something that I’ve repeated, because it’s not who I am and because I am madly in love with my girlfriend of 4 years. But I was curious to hear if anyone noticed a difference in how their partner reacted during the times where you may have verbally lashed out in retaliation to cruelty displayed in a fiery luteal phase as opposed to the patient and tolerant way that you would normally react?