Career or SAHM
I 23 (F) and my 25 (M) boyfriend and have been dating for 4 years. We have a 1 year old. We both met in the military and I took temporary separation orders to care for our kiddo. I finally feel human again and our kiddo is thriving and I am thinking about going back to Active Duty. My boyfriend is strongly against this.
I enjoy my job in the military and I am very good at my job. I know if went back in I could quickly make promote and do very well. I already have 5 years of time in. My boyfriend does not want me to go back to Active Duty.
I struggled so hard with having an identity after having a baby and my job in the military is the one thing that I am super confident in. I know the work life balance of two service members with a kid is challenging but to me it’s so worth it for the financial stability and health care.
I am just really struggling with being a SAHM but, my boyfriend really is pushing me into a very hard decision.
He also is so weird when it comes to the subject of marriage. He is active duty as well and we are not married and because of this I have very little access to proper health insurance. I personally do not care if we are married or not. But sometimes I feel he does not have my best interests at heart.
I know I need to be able to work because otherwise I feel like I am in a super compromised position by not having any assets or any way of making money for myself currently.