u/Confident-Pudding434

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I’m asking because I genuinely want to know if normal lang ba ma-off or uncomfortable sa ganitong topic, or if I’m just overthinking it because of online opinions.

He’s my crush. Nalaman ko lang ‘to earlier habang nagkwe-kwentuhan kami with our colleagues. I posted here kasi I want other people’s opinions. If ibang tao ‘to, I’d feel uncomfortable and might judge it. Pero sa kanya, half of me is na-turn off, while the other half keeps making excuses like maybe normal lang since 18 is an adult or baka jealous lang ako kaya na-turn off ako (I’m 25). Confused lang ako kasi my judgment gets clouded when it comes to him, so I’m not sure if I’m being biased or just trying to justify it because I like him.

I’m F(25) and my work crush is M(29). We’re in the same call center and honestly sobrang confused ako sa situation na ‘to.

At first happy crush lang siya—attractive lang, nothing serious. Actually plano ko na rin mag-resign before all of this. Pero during cross-skill training/nesting, nagkaroon kami ng konting interactions and dun na lumala yung feelings ko.

The problem is… we barely even talk 😭

Minsan tinatanong niya ako through friends kahit nasa harap lang ako. One time tinanong pa niya seatmate ko if magta-take ako ng call kahit katabi lang niya ako. During breaks, minsan may random work-related questions siya pero super minimal lang talaga.

Then recently, sinabi ng friend ko na na-bother daw siya kasi whenever he tries talking to me, I don’t really respond or engage much. Tapos another thing, sabi rin na he might not go sa team eat-out if hindi ako sasama. That gave me a bit of hope pero di ko rin sure if joke lang or what yung context.

Pero at the same time, I overheard din na he has a crush on someone from a class he’s attending right now. Sabi niya pa hindi niya ipu-pursue kasi di pa siya financially stable. It stung a little 🥲

What makes this worse is he literally fits my standards 😭 clean, organized, smart, responsible, soft-spoken, mature, hardworking, ambitious, attractive, tall… basically rare combo.

I’m also super shy and reserved. Hindi ako yung type na nag-iinitiate sa guys. My friend is shy din pero siya nakakausap niya si guy, and honestly naiinggit ako😭 huhu . Kaya napapaisip ako baka akala niya uninterested ako or hard to approach.

Now I’m stuck between:

- getting a bit closer before I resign

- or detaching na para di na ako masaktan once I leave

Part of me thinks I should stop na kasi unclear naman talaga yung actions niya and may crush na siya sa iba. Pero part of me still hopes dahil sa small mixed signals.

I honestly don’t know if I’m overthinking everything or if there’s actually something there 😭

What should I do? Detach na lang ba or try ko pa maging a little closer before I resign?