u/ComprehensiveCry981

Hello, I come from a very traditional and religious family who strongly believe in marriage before kids and all the usual expectations that come with that.
I ended up pregnant with my partner after only being together for 4 months. I know people will judge because I found out I was pregnant very early into the relationship, but honestly our relationship has been amazing so far. We’re both happy, both working, and completely sure about having this baby. I’m currently around 16 weeks pregnant.
I also want to make it very clear that my parents are NOT forcing me into anything. They are supportive, they care about me, and I can make my own decisions. This is more about the way they were raised and their fear of what other people will say. They don’t want me to completely hide the pregnancy, but they want me to keep it from wider family and other people for as long as possible because they’re worried people will gossip, judge me, or be nosey about how quickly I got pregnant. Honestly, I do understand it because people talk, especially in traditional Christian families I know because of the strict religious background they grew up in, this has probably been a massive shock and hard pill for them to swallow. Sometimes I can’t help but feel like they’re slightly embarrassed of me, even if they don’t mean to make me feel that way.
Right now it’s still easy enough to hide because I’m not showing loads yet, but the sickness and exhaustion during the first trimester were hard to cover up. I’ve had to cancel plans, avoid meals and drinks with friends, and make excuses so people wouldn’t start questioning things.
I think what’s upsetting me most is that I want to properly celebrate and enjoy this pregnancy naturally and openly, but I feel like I can’t because of everyone’s worry about judgment and gossip. Other than my partner and parents, I don’t really talk about the baby with anyone, which can feel quite lonely at times. I miss that sense of community and being able to openly share such a huge life moment with the people around me. My parents have also started asking me if I’d consider marriage, and while I do love my partner, I grew up wanting marriage to feel magical and special, not something rushed just because I got pregnant.
I guess I’m just wondering if anyone else has dealt with something similar?