Was I just a rebound?
So I meet this guy a little over a month ago. We hit it off the best first date I’ve ever had in which I’ve actually wanted to see the person again so that was refreshing. He did all of the little things that I as a woman always pay attention to like walk on the right side of the sidewalk, pour water for me before himself, hold every door open, etc. it may seem trivial, but you’d be surprised how rare this is in men these days. We continue talking throughout the weekend and end up meeting again during the week in which he comes over to my place, we hang out and our intimate. We quickly went through some intense life things him moving apartments, me possibly being pregnant, catching a cold together, him losing his dog(she was found!), etc. we would spend every day talking via text and then calls and FaceTime in the evening. I helped him find his dog when she went missing. We started to really connect and have deeper conversations, and obviously, I began to start liking him. He had told me he liked me in the beginning and listed off all the things that he liked about me,none of which were physical, which was refreshing. He also after a few hangouts asked to be exclusive without the labels and delete the dating app we met on to which I agreed. Things were going great, he settled in his new place and we would see each other usually one to two times a week. We kept things light, not too heavy and learned more about each other as time went on. We definitely got along and never had any conflicts or fights. The main thing we didn’t see eye to eye on was some politics but nothing too crazy that would put me off of him. Then last week he failed to make the time to see me during his days off, which sucked but due to him starting a new job while keeping up with his old one, I understood and didn’t make it a big deal, but was obviously disappointed. He planned to see me the next day, but I had work late into the evening and then didn’t really attempt to hang out the following day on his last day off. Previous to this I had found out I was indeed not pregnant thankfully and that would be the last time we met in person.
Basically I’m asking with all these details. What do you think his perspective was? Ultimately, I had a conversation with him this last weekend about where this was headed, and since he has recently gotten out of a long-term relationship at the beginning of this year, I was worried he wasn’t ready for a long term relationship, which is what I’m looking for and his profile showed as well! He said he’d be ready in a month or two while he settles into his new job which I completely understood and was great waiting on him for. I also communicated what I wanted in a relationship and what my expectations were to which he agreed. The next day he messaged me like normal and then in the evening when I went to call him, he came clean about, not feeling like he was ready for a relationship and would rather be friends or just end things. He also mentioned he would not go back on the dating apps because he needed to take time to himself and really focus on establishing things, but of course he didn’t want to hold me back and so while I got back on there, sure enough I find he has as well, which just felt like a slap in the face. I was really starting to enjoy this person‘s company and learn who they were while he made me believe he was doing the same and making plans for the future, including moving water items from his previous apartment that he wanted to use together for a lake day. It’s hard sometimes to grasp a males perspective so I’m wondering was he just sticking around until he was sure I was not pregnant or did he actually reflect and realize he was not ready to jump back into another serious relationship? Was I simply rebound?