u/Competitive-Fold966

I (24F) have been struggling with painful sex for the last couple of years. At 17, I lost my virginity and was sexually active throughout the years until 20. I decided to become celibate, and didn’t have sex for a little over two years. I did still masturbate, but that only consisted of clit stimulation. The biggest issue I’ve noticed is during penetrative sex, it feels like I’m being stabbed at what I presume is my cervix. This usually affects me when guys are bigger but even average size can be unbearable too. I don’t know if I’m at fault here, maybe I’m not stimulated enough, or maybe it’s the performance anxiety but I just want to feel normal. I do sometimes go into sex thinking about the pain before it occurs and I wonder if that has to do with anything. I have also been exploring myself to see if it’s just a general issue or just when I’m with guys. I bought a dild and it’s been the same result. I feel like I’m hitting a wall and can’t go any deeper. But last night, I did it and I went all the way. It wasn’t really painful more like pressure but why was this time different? Is it dependent on where I am in my cycle? I also don’t have consistent sex so I don’t know if that could be why.

Some more background, I’ve always struggled with heavy/painful periods growing up. I had a cyst on my ovary, and it was assumed that was what caused my painful periods, but after that passed, the painful periods continued. I recently had a check up and my uterine lining was 20.3 mm thick, I had a polyp on my uterus (Dr. was not concerned about it), and I was told my retroverted uterus. Mr. Dr. explained that none of these issues would cause painful sex but I don’t know.

genuinely curious if that would be considered cheating. Is it part of the game to not know everything? I’m just curious how you guys approach words you don’t know?

Hello all!

All of my life, I’ve been told that I’m soft spoken, and I’ve accepted that as the truth and didn’t do anything to improve it. But as an adult, it’s hurting me and opportunities to grow. When I try to project my voice, it’s to the point where I feel like I’m yelling, and yet people still have trouble hearing me. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong or how to make correct adjustments because it seems like what I’m doing to improve it, isn’t working. All tips and tricks are welcomed!