u/CollegeStuff2026

We will be moving to the SD area with our 15yo daughter entering sophomore year of high school, and the only thing holding us back from making a final decision is worry over whether she will be welcomed and be able to find her people, when everyone probably already has long-standing "friend groups." What is the vibe at RBHS? Torrey Pines? How is the teen girl scene at each? Is there bullying? How about academically? We want to find a happy medium there, where it's not a meat grinder but where kids are expected to try to do their best while having a life (time for sports, friends, AND sleep). Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts--especially on girls' social scene/willingness to welcome newcomers!

We will be moving to the SD area with our 15yo daughter entering sophomore year of high school, and the only thing holding us back from making a final decision is worry over whether she will be welcomed and be able to find her people, when everyone probably already has long-standing "friend groups." What is the vibe at RBHS? Torrey Pines? How is the teen girl scene at each? Is there bullying? How about academically? We want to find a happy medium there, where it's not a meat grinder but where kids are expected to try to do their best while having a life (time for sports, friends, AND sleep). Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts--especially on girls' social scene/willingness to welcome newcomers!