How to politely tell my upstairs neighbor to stfu
I (27f) live alone in a downstairs, old apartment. Only 6 units in this building so everyone inevitably runs into each other now and then. I am incredibly non-confrontational and tend to avoid any and all confrontation if possible :/ (thank youuuu childhood trauma)
So my upstairs neighbor, which, is the only neighbor Ive never personally seen come in or out of the building. Over the last few months has driven me INSANE! At this point I have their entire routine memorized. Bi-daily vacuuming at 8am, then again around 9pm. Stomping around like a god damn rodeo up there in between, dropping what sounds like bowling balls, etc. I work from home and am on calls throughout the day and have gotten confirmation from a coworker once that she could hear all the stomping above me 😫 it has become a running joke at this point.
I’ve tried to do my best to ignore it, but the other day, I was awoken to screaming around 11pm, and it continued till about 1am. It sounded one-sided and I kept hearing items crash around. Genuinely felt like the floor could have fallen through at any moment. I am fairly certain it is just one individual, I assume male, who lives up there.
The thing is, these tendencies strike me as erratic most of the time, which is why I fear taking the route of calling it out by leaving a direct note, knocking on the door, etc. I have no clue how this person would react. I consider myself a very empathetic person, but it‘s getting to the point where I am losing my cool over it.
My landlord is a chill dude, can come to him about any issue and have a quick resolution, which has always just regarded maintenance stuff. But I just fear that in my complaint to him, it would be very obvious to the neighbor who snitched.
Part of me holds curiosity as to what this individual could possibly be doing all day making that much noise, part of me is absolutely fed up with this shit. Now I’m really just ranting at this point, but WWYD in this situation?