Hi, I'm very new to posting on reddit but I somehow found this space and thought I'd give it a shot :)
This is open to people of all genders and sizes but please be 25+ and ideally living in Europe since I would love to meet up eventually but I don't fly (if you're willing to travel eventually, then further away and online connections are also fine).
I'm on the aromantic spectrum (haven't figured out yet where exactly but definitely somewhere on it) and recently ended a ten year relationship, so I'm not looking for romance atm. I would love to find someone kinky (I'm a masochistic sub bottom) with similar interests (roleplaying/writing, fantasy novels, tv shows and videogames) who would like to chat, get to know each other and see how things go from there. I don't want something casual though, once I click with somebody I love sharing what goes on in my life with them and anything that interests me atm and I love to hear about people's passions, even if they're not mine and learn new things about them and what they like.
The amount of contact, mutual support and intimacy I wish for is probably what most people would only have with romantic partners but I'd like to establish that without romantic affection and any of the expectations that come with a romantic relationship, that's why I'm open to queerplatonic partnerships. How that looks like exactly depends on what everyone feels comfortable with. I'm also poly and open to multiple connections.
There are a few things I want to ask you to be okay with before messaging me:
- I'm mentally ill (in therapy and on medication but it still affects me)
- I'm plus sized (and have gained a lot of weight due to said medication, I'm trying to lose it again but it's a slow process)
- I'm still close friends with my ex of ten years, we consider each other family and he will (hopefully) always be a big part of my life
- I'm afab and have been on T for three years, then detransitioned legally while still being out as non-binary to my friends, family and roomies
If you made it this far and none of that put you off then I would be really happy to hear from you :)