I'm in a straight relationship and realized I am bi. It started when I met a person who is the same sex as me, we became friends, and, pretty quickly, I formed a sort of crush on them. Butterflies in my stomach when I see them, etc. I immediately thought to myself, "Oh, yeah—I am bi." Like there is no way I can not be bi and have feelings like this for this person. I like knowing this about myself. I even "came out" to my partner, whom I'm married to.
My frustration is that I have an unrequited love for this other person. There is no path forward, really. This other person is also in a relationship. And true to most unrequited loves, this person probably doesn't even know I feel this way about them. But every time I see them, which is not often (maybe 5 times this year?), I have this crush feeling, and I can't seem to shake it off. And then there's the constant daydreaming about them. Am I just enthralled at having my first same-sex crush?
My partner said they would be okay if I explored this part of my newly found sexuality. Not in an "open relationship" sort of way, but as a one-off thing.
Should I ask my crush if they have an open relationship and just go for it??