Best friend only thinks about herself
I (22f) have been best friends with this girl (21f) for probably half of our lives. Up until a few months ago we lived pretty close together and would hang out a lot ever since we were little kids. We would always have fun together but there would be a residing problem I've had with her ever since around middle school to high school time. It's that she's the type to stay up at my place (never hers) and play loud music until literally sunrise (waking people up and not wanting to put music down after somebody complains- maybe just slightly). And a lot of the time if I didn't want to do that and was tired I would be pressured to stay up later. So I guess she's bossy.
Fast forward to a few months ago before she moved away we discovered alcohol during our hangouts and of course that lead me to being pressured to drink more than I would want to as well. Like the thing is, is that we DO have fun hanging out but it's like she needs her way all the time. I feel like I care about her and she cares about me. She still gets me gifts for holidays. I guess one issue I have is that she's horrible at texting me back.
Now to the last week, I was on vacation with my partner for his birthday. My best friend lives a quick-ish drive away from our destination so we planned a little stay for 2 days/3nights super close to her so we can hang out. When we get there on the first night we are really tired but are willing to get there, but not to drink as it was kind of late. We were informed by her that her and her whole family started drinking for when we get there. I was trying to figure out what to do and she calls and says to not worry about it and get some sleep so we can do our plans the next day.
Next day rolls up and my partner and I wake up at 10:30AM (which we felt was late) to a text from her from the wee hours on the morning saying she was still awake and her period started so she's going to try to wake up at 10AM. That clearly didn't happen. I get ready to leave and we decided to drive to the place we all were going to hang out at and wait for her to meet up (it is important that we are going to a beach). I get anxious that she does not actually have a ride there so on the way to the beach we decide to sit and have a meal near her house so if she wakes up and gets ready we can just go pick her up. It is around 1PM when we finish out food and we finally get a text from her saying that she is awake.
She says she isn't feeling good (I wonder why... drinking on your period) and we should go without her and to see her after we get back from the beach. Which is weird because I only went there to see her. So I said it is totally up to her and that we wouldn't do anything crazy around the beach and that we can pick her up when she's ready. She said it is going to take an hour and a half which is a little long but we had packing to do so we thought we could kill the time. At 2PM I ask if somebody she lives with can drive her. She says no because they're all still asleep (this is a weekday btw). Probably because they all got trashed the night prior.
We are just waiting for her until FUCKING 4PM. With updates along the way saying what she's up to and "just another half hour". We are so upset with her because it takes an hour to get there anyways. We didn't even go into the hotel pool the entire time we were just sitting around because we thought that any moment now she would tell us to pick her up.
So when we pick her up we get NO sorry about the precious vacation time we wasted waiting for her. The hangout was fun though honestly with a few hiccups. Like my partner bought her food and she didn't offer to pay or even thank him.
Anyways, that was my rant. She also got me sick I think haha. Because on the last day of our vacation we wanted to see her but she said her throat hurts. So we went all the way into the middle of nowhere for days to just wait around and hang out with her for a few hours I guess. She just totally sees all of what she did as normal though. I don't even want to text her anymore for the time being which is sad because she was my go-to (even though I would need to wait days for a reply sometimes even though she doesn't even work). I feel like I should say something but I don't know where to start.