TL;DR: roomie uses me for weed stuff for long time can’t break the cycle
Soooo idk how I’ve gotten here but I’m just tryna vent cause I’m at my wits end. Live with a bunch of girls, fairly nice and consistent, moved in with my bsf(we are no longer friends but that’s a whole another story) but I bonded with this particular roommate cause we both toke toke 😉. Since I’ve moved in we built this particular habit of sparking together and this was my first fuck up. It would start out slow maybe 1x a week but then after a while it progressively moved to knocking on my door daily and asking to spark(it’s been a 2yrs).
NOW I don’t mind if only she didn’t have a bad habit of holding the blunt for about 5-10mins(getting distracted, just fucking holding it, or idk just mooching) and if you’re a pot head you know that’s the most irritating thing anyone can do cause that’s time and money being smoked away. Now this would be way less annoying if she didn’t try to invade my space any chance she gets. I’ve also told her multiple times I’m a person who LOVES being alone I have friends I have people I have lovers I just don’t wanna be in anyone’s face 😭😭Dude tell me why after I told her this and expressed I’d like some alone time multiple times this girl will leave me alone for a couple days and then start that knocking all over again! Im not currently working but imagine going to work wanting to come home for some alone time and then being bombarded with “KNOCK KNOCK” “hey how are u,WANNA SMOKE?” Like god damn she has made me wanna quit smoking multiple times cause the whole process has just become so fucking draining. It’s another thing cause we usually smoke in my rolm and use my supplies! (Weed,Papers,grabba, lighter fluid) like obvs ive started to be way more stinger and like we can hang but im rolling for myself and she always asks why like wdym why?? I just wanna smoke by myself in my hoke without a headache. Now been asking to spark in her room cause I’m a neat freak and there’s always an ash mess or her picking her hair and just leaving it on my room(this is rlly my breaking point cause I try to be kind but she does it so often I ask her what’s up with it and even bought her a hair ointment for itchy scalp and even bursted out to tell her to stop doing that in my room because she’ll pick strains and just leave it on my fucking bed and I feel So bad because it’s unconscious but omg the way my skin crawls and my anger peaks out just makes it’s so hard. She also broke my old style mirror and promised to pay me back or get me one but she never did(shit like that makes me never wanna let ppl in my room again argh) She’s also super defensive and argumentative at times when we talk about anything I could tell u the sky is blue and she’ll say well no i don’t think so it’s actually blah blah blah. I could poise the most interesting question/answer/point(TO ME) and she’ll find a way to dismantle it because she lacks the vision to see it. Then boom high ruined. She dead argue with me about my personal life like well no ur think like that b/c of ur religious background or u just haven’t seen it or blah blah blah like girl stfu like it’s genuinely hard to wanna talk to her about my interests cause I feel like she’ll ruin it 😭 she really thinks she so much smarter than me or something and it annoys me because my point goes over head. Mind u I went to a prestigious private university (top 20 in the country) and she dropped out???(no disrespect) but it’s like I let her get away with saying whatever I’m not a police but the min I present something that disproves her point shell still dance around being right somehow? The only other annoying thing she does is kinda put poor effort into her chore of the month(she never cleans the living room, just sweeps and does barely nothing else, will clean other chores 1x a month and pass it on like no biggie, never pick up house supplies I’ve noticed like tp, or go out her way to help like shell see trash full and just keep going LMAO 😂 she also speed cleans dishes leaving stains but I digress
But not too bash, she’s a nice person… but like what do I do atp im just waiting till my lease is up this August and finding somewhere in between.
PS: she’ll also make comments since I’ve been unemployed about my wake up times like I didn’t know if u were up was gonna knock on your door if she can ask me for a favor/use my stuff/or again JUST SMOKE.
Help I know I did this to myself by lacking reinforcing boundaries but idk what to do atp
I feel like this girl will never leave me alone