u/ChoiceSupermarket277

Something I genuinely struggle to understand is this: if a person is created with certain feelings naturally and never chose them, why would God forbid them from ever experiencing love through them?
People often say the story of loot is about the destroyed nation in scripture was mainly about violence, assault, humiliation, and evil behavior not necessarily loving relationships. But then I get confused because in the story the prophet tells them “these are my daughters, they are purer for you,” and I don’t fully understand what that means.
Was he calling them toward lawful marriage instead of abusive behavior? Was “daughters” symbolic? Or is the story being misunderstood entirely?
Like why is it a sin
This makes me think sometimes that maybe religion is actually manmad because it just doesn’t make sense

I actually find it beautiful and a lot of of these progressive schoolers like Abu layth dr Khalid ebou el fadl and dr shabir I’ll believe it’s a sin!!!!!

It’s about loot I can’t say it clearly cuz thsi sub moderates it

I was thinking about this a lot the Quran is self calm’s it’s a all time book yet it doesn’t seem to be the case at all especially within inheritance it’s severely an affair to woman. It is complete unjust, and today’s world where a woman can inherent fully what the Quran frame it as the woman can never fully inherit yet of course the only sons can inherent fully while the daughter can’t and every case scenario men get more even in today’s world where women provide for themselves . It just doesn’t work like that anymore uncles are mostly not in nobody’s life at least in mine and being an only daughter it really pisses me off. Why would my dad‘s inheritance go to somebody else that is not in my life that is supposedly supposed to provide for me it seems very outdated and this is what makes me think isn’t really for all times.?

I would love help and opinions on this
And btw I come from more of a well off family that’s why this issue with Islam keeps bugging me 🫶🏻

Hey so I did read a ton on this hour een but yet to find a satisfaction answer for it

This is one of the toughest things I have or been fighting to keep my faith and stay in Islam

As I have said this is a very sexist read because why like why are they promised sexual beings that are just ready sitting there for them in a lot of arguments I’ve seen is just because it was being like mostly revealed to men so God had to make it appeal to them, but wouldn’t God also think about the woman like I feel like second class citizen and I wouldn’t he think at some point that’s not gonna be the case?

An alternative argument I seen is al ghazalis opinion, or the opinion he held that they are just your earth wife’s that I also have a problem with that because then why is a woman’s virginity being fetishized that all she’s gonna be like pure and clean for you up there again this one also objectifies woman

This is probably one of the things that make me feel like Islam is man-made because I just don’t know. This is very sexist. I can’t cope with this, but whenever I think of my significant partner in the future, I feel disgusted of him thinking about something like this, but then I think but this is what the religion says so I’m conflicted in this position where I’m disgusted by the idea of it but then this is what the religion I want to stay in says

And 78:31 this one again a lot of classical translations Arabic better than us that they translated this to you know big breasts or traditionally or anything it referred to a girl who’s almost reaching maturity or she’s just young and just very disgusting and I did not expect something like this from the word of God or the Quran even sexual relationship relationships between husband and wife are not describe something like this

It’s the part why do we need them like genuinely I love my parents and I can’t imagine them separated with diff people why can’t they both of them not any houri be together like genuinely this hurts me and my feelings so much every time I think about them I cry or feel pure disgust

Please, I beg like I need answers help like I have read a lot of things but yet it’s just not convincing

PLEASE 🙏