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Gezocht: Zwollenaar met achtertuin op het noorden “waar hij/zij toch niets mee doet” of een polytunnel met ruimte
▲ 46 r/Zwolle

Gezocht: Zwollenaar met achtertuin op het noorden “waar hij/zij toch niets mee doet” of een polytunnel met ruimte

Hallo!

In de categorie ‘niet geschoten is altijd mis’: Ik ben Ron. Ik ben Bonsai hobbyist en ik heb gisteren deze 50 jaar oude jeneverbes uitgegraven omdat de vrouw bij wie hij in de tuin stond hem weg wilde hebben (er moeten tegels in). Ik moest een reddingspoging doen, want ik kon haar niet gewoon dood laten gaan.

Het probleem? Ik heb zelf beperkte ruimte in mijn achtertuin en ik wil hem deels in een kleine polytunnel zetten tijdens de rest van de lente en zomer.

Is er iemand die het niet zo veel uitmaakt als deze beauty een jaartje in zijn/haar achtertuin/polytunnel kan herstellen zodat ze ooit een mooie bonsaiboom kan worden? Ik kom dan wel langs om water te geven uiteraard, dus je krijgt mij er gratis bij, maar ik ben een zeer vriendelijke 36-jarige ambtenaar met een vrouw, een hond en een Citroën.

Hoeft op zich niet gratis, er kan best een kleine vergoeding tegenover staan.

u/Chiquemund_Freud — 4 days ago
▲ 8 r/Bonsai

Rate my juniper yamadori recovery plan

Dug this up yesterday, lady wanted it out of her yard because she wanted to pave it over. Barely has any surface roots (it was in loose sand), but I did preserve all it had. First time digging out something this old, but I had to try to save it.

The plan:

4 weeks of intensive care

I snared it down and I will be misting the foiliage 4-5 times a day and watering the roots once or twice. In a week or two, I’ll give it some seaweed extract to help root development.

Stage 2 (week 5 till winter)

I’m putting it against a north facing wall so she can get morning sun. I’m going to tie it to a pole in the ground (for wind protection) and I’m spanning clear plastic over it, to create a mini green house (leaving the roots outside of the “green house”). Misting the foliage in the morning (and maybe evening?). Watering the roots every morning.

Winter

Lift it of the ground, wrap the box in bubble wrap and mulch the top of the substrate and pray.

u/Chiquemund_Freud — 4 days ago
▲ 52 r/Bonsai

Owner of a garden center offhandedly mentioned he had some 60 year old junipers in his backyard

Had I ask if I could see them. Excuse my dutch smalltalk.

u/Chiquemund_Freud — 6 days ago
▲ 57 r/TrueOffMyChest

My wife is in the midst of a severe burn out. I could see it coming for about two years but last summer the bomb finally went off.

She has been so mad. Mad about everything. Over the last two years it just turned into her standard emotional state and I couldn’t pull her out of it. She used anger as a way to protect herself from how complicated life can be I think. It took a toll on us. So much of a toll that I was really relieved when she finally crashed and simply HAD to work on herself. And she has been working so hard. She’s in therapy, reading everything she can find on emotional regulation and I can just see her grow back into the woman I proposed to.

And Friday we had such a fantastic reconnection. She has been analyzing what effects her madness has had on her personal life now and obviously I’m closest to her. So I took the brunt of it. In that time, our sex life just vanished.

In that time she took to blaming me for it, and not really thinking to much about it, I took that blame. I’ve never been a really sexual person (I sometimes straight up dislike all the bodily fluids and everything). So it sounded logical. Every few months she would urge me to go to therapy for it or find a solution.

Friday though, we were sitting in our garden and were talking about how our life has changed for the better since “the collapse” (a type of emotional conversation she was simply unable to have for a year). And out of the blue she said: ‘I still can’t get over how ridiculous it was for me to blame YOU for not wanting sex with the mad gremlin that bossed you around the house all day.’

And we laughed. For like 15 minutes. It was unbelievably validating and eye opening for me. Like I said: I just assumed that it was me and my ADHD. But of course it wasn’t. Because I’m an emotional connection guy. I don’t do lust all that well. It’s just not sufficient for me to be intimate with someone. She is different though. In between all the madness she still had a sex drive (more out of a need for validation than anything else I think).

It let me know that my wife is back and I couldn’t be more proud of her for climbing out of this dark pit an even better woman than she already was. Since Friday I can actually feel things waking up that have been dormant for too long.

Thanks for reading.

Ps. Don’t bother telling me to leave her or that I should’ve left. I love that woman more than life itself and I will never leave.

Kbye!

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u/Chiquemund_Freud — 13 days ago