Dating apps after discard
recently got back on Hinge after about a year of not really talking to men, following a pretty difficult experience with an avoidant ex.
This is the first time I’ve felt even a little bit of that “talking stage” energy again, so I’m trying to understand if I’m reading too much into things or if something actually shifted.
I matched with a guy and for the first 5 days, he was very consistent — texting regularly, quick replies, good conversation, and overall it felt easy and engaging.
Then around day 6, I noticed a change. His responses became slower and less frequent. Not completely gone, but definitely less effort compared to before.
What confused me more is that right around this shift, he gave me his number. I texted him, we had a short conversation, and he even messaged me the next morning. But throughout the day, the pattern continued — he replied a bit, then left me on read twice and didn’t really continue the conversation.
I guess I’m trying to understand what this kind of behavior usually means. Is it normal for people to come on strong in the beginning and then pull back like this? Or does giving a number not really mean much anymore?
Also, I’m aware that my past experience might be making me more sensitive to shifts in communication, so I’m trying to separate intuition from overthinking.
Would really appreciate honest perspectives — especially from people who’ve been on either side of this.