u/ChickenDinnerGuy

Does it matter to you? Does it depend what teeth they are? Does other aspects of the person overcome some missing teeth?

My story below and what triggered me to post this:

I'm a man in my 30s and dating is already tough for me as it is. It seems easy for almost everyone I meet, but not for me. To be fair, I am a introvert, I don't go out much, I don't socialize outside of work, and sadly, I can be shallow. The latter is probably how I was raised. I often think I'm socially awkward, but not in a creepy way or anything like that.

My male friends consider me "innocent" and "too nice." I agree with them to some extent. They are horn dogs and most of my male friends have always been like that. I think that's why I make sure not to be like them. I'm a nice person in general and respect everyone. I definitely respect women more and want to make sure they feel safe around me. Even though I end up just being a friend to them, I'm perfectly okay with that because at the very least I made new friends and perhaps some of those women may think "not every guy is a horn dog". (They've shared stories and I feel bad).

Despite not having luck with women, maybe I'm doing something wrong or not good looking enough, I haven't given up hope. I'm always looking for advice and I'm also trying to improve my physical appearance because it does matter to some people. It matters to me most of the time and sometimes the physical appearance says a lot about the person.

With that said, I just found out that I may get 4 teeth removed. I have to get another evaluation. After hearing this, my eyes got watery on my drive back home. I'm thinking it'll be even more difficult for me dating as if it wasn't really difficult already. The 4 teeth are the ones in the back (top left & right molars).

How did this happen? The obvious answer is not taking care of my teeth properly. On the surface my teeth look fine. But I often brushed too hard and never cared about flossing, sadly. To make things worse, my obsessive compulsive disorder was so bad for a whole year that I found everything disgusting, including brushing my teeth. I did not brush them for a whole year and I believe this was the start of it all and how it made everything worse.

I've been taking better care of my teeth in the last 4 years or so, but it won't be enough. I really hope the dentist will be able to save a few of the 4 teeth. At the end of the day, life continues, I know. But for someone that has a hard time dating, this is going to take a big hit on me.

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u/ChickenDinnerGuy — 15 days ago