u/Chance-Bread-315

I had my work capability assessment appointment on the phone today and can't stop thinking about this...

The assessor was ~45 mins late calling me. I have anxiety, depression and adhd and was going to pieces sat there waiting.

One of the last few sets of questions they asked me were about dealing with change. They asked how I would cope if an appointment time were changed a month in advance, a week in advance and then... and how about today? Because this call was late? I broke down and cried on the call. I can't remember the exact phrasing but the way they said it really felt like it had been intentional, that they were testing my capacity to cope with changes/things not going according to plan etc.

The incident has left me feeling absolutely sick to my stomach and I can't stop thinking about it. If that is what happened, it feels cruel, like they were intentionally causing me distress. But, would they actually do that?

It feels like every other post on this sub has a string of comments complaining about the annoying dress code and saying that they just wouldn't go.

I'm wondering how common that actually is?

I've only ever been invited to weddings of people who I actually really like and want to celebrate with and personally if I was struggling with the dress code I'd just wear whatever I had that was closest to the brief rather than RSVP no...