Advice for my frustration with a fellow player.
For context, I have been playing with this group for over a year, almost 2. The DM is experienced as well as the other players. I am having some frustration with another player who I know and am normally pretty chill with, we talk outside of DnD maybe once a month. This is the first time I am having frustrations with this person because of their character and how the character sidetracks things constantly.
Their character is a heavily traumatized, anxious, socially inexperienced individual , who the player describes as a “she’s just a little bean”. I don’t have issues with those traits but the way this person goes about it is just exhausting since the character has made no progress in improving their trauma. All of our characters as well as NPC’s have heavily supported, spoken, and tried to help this character but the character will often run away because of anxiety or disappear, frequently side track everyone because of their anxiety attacks. I feel like 3-4 of our sessions lately have resulted in 1-1.5 hour long dialogue with this character whether it’s NPC’s or other PC’s feeding into their characters behavior and delayed our goal heavily. I’m trying to be empathetic but it’s at a point where I’m over it. I’m trying not to feed into the “chase after them and make it better.” And I noticed that helps a little since I am not encouraging and feeding into the chase and console. In the beginning of the campaign the other player and I agreed to have some sort of romance between our two characters and I am starting to be like yeah no. I will preface that I don’t feel comfortable approaching the player about this because they are extremely sensitive. I would approach the DM and do plan to but I don’t know how to word my concerns without sounding callous or rude. Maybe I am overreacting, but I’d appreciate some advice. Thanks!