ok so i'm 27, working in noida, and i just realised i haven't had a real conversation with a close friend in like 6 weeks. not a meme forward. not a "haha" reply. an actual conversation.
two years back i had a solid group. we'd just randomly show up at each other's places, late night bike rides for no reason, calls that went nowhere for hours. now? 4 out of 6 of us have basically ghosted each other and not even because of a fight. just life happened i guess.
one got married and fully disappeared into his wife's social circle (classic) one relocated to blr for a startup. two are in full grind mode like 6am gym... late... office... sleep... repeat... and me? sitting here on a sunday realising my last "hangout" was at someone's wedding 3 months ago where we talked for 20 mins before everyone went back to their tables.
the thing that gets me is nobody talks about this. we talk about men not opening up, toxic masculinity, all of that. but nobody talks about how indian men just silently lose their whole social life in their mid-20s and it's somehow normal?? like your hostel and college canteen were basically forcing you to be social. once that's gone, you're just... on your own. and nobody taught us how to maintain friendships as adults.
i'm not in a bad place or anything. work is fine. but genuinely asking did this happen to you too?