u/Certain-Emotion5126

So after a follow up with a colorectal surgeon I found out I am able to have the j pouch surgery (I'm aware it will be 2 surgeries). I am about to be 38 and I was all in until my dad's tax lady got inside my head when she said most men she knew that had the surgery wish that they didn't. She is in her 60s, so I'm hoping the people she knew were older.

Incontinence is one thing, but what really scares me is erectile dysfunction and ejaculation problems that could happen from not just one but two surgeries. I just wanna hear some men's experience with the reversal. Do you regret it or are you glad you went through with it, and what can I expect I fully expect adult diapers will be a thing but for how long and what is life like post surgery and more important did you have to go back to a stoma

I'm just wondering if there is any resources for learning to live off grid. Self sufficiency and being able to get the hell out of Dodge at the drop of a hat is increasingly seeming like a necessity. The problem is I am basically a child compared to people that have these skills and i have no fucking clue where to even begin. I'm just wondering if there is a community of people who think like me in this province