u/CerealKillerNoMilk

I’ve noticed that when I’m talking to my American friends, workmates etc they often use exclamation marks to show excitement or friendliness.

For example:

Q: Was that you I saw on the news?
A: Yes that was me!

To me the exclamation mark just means an excited or enthusiastic response . But when I’ve used the same type of response with my fellow Zambians, especially the ladies , they sometimes say it comes across as rude. So is it rude for y’all?

I don’t mean this disrespectfully, and I’m not trying to insult anyone. This is just something I’ve noticed and I’m curious what other people think.

Why is it that most white men who come to Zambia, or Africa in general, often seem to date women who would be considered more ordinary-looking by local beauty standards?

Of course, beauty is subjective, and everyone has different preferences. But in Zambia, like anywhere else, there are women who are widely considered exceptionally attractive and others who are more regular-looking. From what I’ve observed, white men don’t seem to go for the women who are considered the most conventionally attractive locally.

Is this because they have different beauty standards? Is it a cultural thing? Is it about personality, availability, social circles, or something else entirely?