Long story short: My husband and I got courthouse married last March with just my parents in attendance. We were very okay with that. However, there have been significant/unfortunate changes on both sides of our families and I am feeling... not guilty, but it doesn't feel right that our families haven't met.
So. A wedding.
Our families are opposite sides of the country, but mine live here. Our list is about ~80 people. We chose a small, significantly historic venue that supplies furniture and are having it catered by a well-loved local grocery store. We're paying a friend to make a playlist, and we plan on thrifting for decorations and buying florals in bulk. We have most of the "big expenses" figured out.
But I feel so AWKWARD about everything else. Do we have an officiant? Speeches? A first dance? We're foregoing maids/men of honor and all of that jazz because I personally hate making a to-do out of shit. We can't land on a good idea of how to actually structure the damn thing.
Anyone else do anything similar? We're both really at a loss here. I can clarify anything if this sounds confusing (because it is). And not having it is not an option, for those who say this is stupid and to not do it. I know it's stupid lol.