How to ever trust your instincts again after going through a divorce?
A little over a year ago I (31M) got divorced. We were together for 9 years and married for 7. Admittedly I got married too young and there was some religious expectation (which I am no longer a part of) that played a role in my decision. Regardless of the religious aspect, like many other people I had that feeling of “I just knew” she was the one. Even when I first met her, I had this weird feeling that I had already known her and one of the first things I said to her was “I know you from somewhere right?”
When we met, she was ambitious (working full time while starting up a double major), health conscious, very active, wanted to have kids, and very loyal. But by the time we got divorced, she was a college dropout, gained 50 pounds, financially irresponsible, did not want kids, and (worst of all) a cheater. I had always told her from the start that my number one goal in life was to never get divorced and well, last year I failed at that goal.
With that being said I do want to get married again and start a family but I feel like I can never truly trust my instincts again. Even if I get that feeling of “she is the one”, how can I trust it given the fact that I have already been through this and was incorrect?