Started the pill and then broke up with my bf of two years a few months later. Are these two things related?
I made another post when I touched on this a bit. But in January I switched from the Liletta IUD that I had since October 2023 to the combined pill. Because the IUD made me feel like a monster because of how angry and irritable I could get, my hair got super oily, and my sex drive pretty high. I think the progestin in the IUD acted like testosterone and that’s what caused a lot of my symptoms I put up with it for a long time and was recommended the pill to help me with my moods.
Before my bf and I would fight occasionally (honey moon phase) at first but they would get pretty intense when we did, and then we started fighting more as our relationship progressed. Obviously there were other factors involved like complicated history between us. When I got on the pill it helped my moods a lot and I was fine up until March. I didn’t notice the changes as they were happening to me. My libido started dipping and I started feeling emotionally numb and one day I just came home from work and I felt like I did not want to be around him anymore. At the time he didn’t have a job and that’s a whole other thing that we had problems over. So I didn’t think about my bc. I just thought it was because of possible resentment starting to creep in. And not having enough space to myself.
But over the next few days those feelings just didn’t go away. I started feeling trapped in my relationship. And I wanted to get out. We ended up breaking up briefly for a few days before getting back together. He moved out to his own place to give me space, (we lived with my mom for the majority of the relationship). And we broke up again a week ago.
In that time I’ve been off of the pill I was taking since April 17th. Still don’t have much of a libido and my romantic and sexual feelings are gone. It’s so weird because I’ve never felt like this as an adult. 26f btw. I stopped taking the pill because I wanted clarity if it was my bc that made me feel that way and caused my relationship to blow up.
Me and him are still in contact. Say what you will about that but it’s a hard transition and we still care about each other. Our conversations have been amicable, reflective, and supportive to one another, not an everyday thing though. Just making sure the other is okay. I still feel the lingering symptoms of my bc and I’ve been on a health journey trying to rebalance my hormones and understand what I’m really feeling under all of this. It’s just hard for me to believe that everything changed so fast, I thought this man was the love of my life and two months ago everything just changed… we definitely had our issues that I had trouble accepting but I always felt like I loved him so much that we wouldn’t break up. I know that things like this can just happen but the suddenness combined with me taking a new bc made me question it so much. Has anyone else been through something like this?