How to ask husband for a ring upgrade without sounding ungrateful?
Basically like the title says. I got proposed to on NYD 2022 with a perfect little 0.25 ct lab diamond that was around $250. When I say perfect it is perfect for me! I didn't want a big expensive ring, I was so stressed about having something hundreds or thousands of dollars on my finger and I wear latex gloves for work so a big diamond would break through and I couldn't wear it every day. I've loved my little diamond for almost 4 years now.
2027 will be our 5 year anniversary and I think I want to ask for a ring upgrade 😍 However, I obviously don't want to hurt my husband's feelings by asking for a big rock. To be clear, I don't want him to spend thousands. I'd love a 2-3 carat moissanite or white sapphire solitaire. I love moissanite and offered it as an option when hubby was first shopping for the engagement ring, but he wanted a true diamond because he likes that it is the hardest stone and represents eternal love or whatever 😂 We also plain didn't have a lot of money then and still don't with a new baby here, but we're doing decently for ourselves.
I want a bigger stone because I'm now a mostly stay at home mom, and a big stone isn't an issue for daily wear anymore. Also, my bird brain just loves big shiny things and while I love looking at MY diamond all the time, I also love looking at pics and videos of big stones with all the sparkle.
If I'm being ungrateful or shallow I'm willing to hear that lol 😅 I mostly want to see how I should go about asking for an upgrade anniversary ring while also letting him know I love my current ring and want to keep wearing it.
Edit: Thank you so much for all your nice responses! It's been super helpful. I appreciate the reassurance that I'm not shallow by asking for a new ring. My husband and I both struggle to spend money on "material" things and I especially struggle with feeling "worthy" of nice things. It's definitely not my husband's fault, he loves buying me nice stuff. He dragged me to a jewelry store to pick out a lovely necklace for my first Mother's Day, I would have been happy with just cheapo flowers ❤️
I agree that using the phrase "upgrade" is probably not the best way. I plan on talking to him this year on our anniversary in November and setting my expectations for 2027 so he has a year to plan lol. I also want to offer to shop together so the pressure isn't as high. I also appreciate the practical suggestions about lab diamonds VS Moissanite. I checked some prices and was so surprised that the metal was the thing jacking up the cost, not the stone 🤔