u/CauliflowerChoice376

So okay, hi, uhm I will try to not have this too long or dragged out okay?

So I (21 female, currently in college) and my boyfriend (29) - the most amazing guy ever, ever. Kind of lost his job last year, lost his job, his house, and his cars and his brother died.. His mother fell ill and almost passed too he sold his most prized car to pay for her things, no one in his family gives a damn, he lost EVERYTHING and gave his last to his family and they kind of just shunned him to the side they ALWAYS do! He doesn't really talk about it or comments on it and when I try and talk to him about it and ask him how he feels about all that he just says "its okay, things happen but we will be okay, alright?" and then he just lets it go, I know for a FACT he would still have had money and at least 2 cars if he did not help them, his family is ungrateful and always makes him to be the problem and I have watched it all go down. But enough of that! He is holding on but since he lost THAT car he has not been the same since its like, hes alive but not? If that makes sense, driving was his escape it was his way to cope he would stand there and wash that car three times a day if needed haha like that kind of love, he does not drink, smoke, he does not like going out, he has ZERO enemies and I understand why, he is the most mature person I know, he even has super old guys stop him all over asking him for advice etc, he is super respected all over. And to this day he keeps fit (I don't know how he can still work out and things going through that cause id go depressed and become fat and lazy), him and I have been sending in his resume thousands of times in the past year, and nothing, he had a professional high end career.

I study full time and now and then take on some random after hours work things. He even tried for it too but no luck

I don't even want to mention what I tried to do online to try and help him get a car again. I really don't know what to do. Like he doesn't deserve this shit its all cause of that ungrateful family. I want to help him but I don't know what, I would do a go fund me thing but I think it is for a stupid reason for most people, and I would humiliate him I know, cause I brought it up many times and his words "I`m a man, men don't go begging for a handout, I worked for what I had, and now I lost it, I need to just do that all over again" and I can see the hope is dying in his mind heart and soul, the way he sits up and smiles when he hears some exhausts noises driving past. It breaks my heart badly, he would do prom drives for FREE WHO DOES THAT, he let kids rev his car and take them for drives. Like what, thats why I love him so much. I cant save up enough to make it happen for him. Any help / advice would be needed, I know I will get hate for this but I really had to get this off my chest and maybe there is someone who can assist with pointing me in some direction or whatever cause I really do not know

So okay, hi, uhm I will try to not have this too long or dragged out okay?

So I (21 female, currently in college) and my boyfriend (29) - the most amazing guy ever, ever. Kind of lost his job last year, lost his job, his house, and his cars and his brother died.. His mother fell ill and almost passed too he sold his most prized car to pay for her things, no one in his family gives a damn, he lost EVERYTHING and gave his last to his family and they kind of just shunned him to the side they ALWAYS do! He doesn't really talk about it or comments on it and when I try and talk to him about it and ask him how he feels about all that he just says "its okay, things happen but we will be okay, alright?" and then he just lets it go, I know for a FACT he would still have had money and at least 2 cars if he did not help them, his family is ungrateful and always makes him to be the problem and I have watched it all go down. But enough of that! He is holding on but since he lost THAT car he has not been the same since its like, hes alive but not? If that makes sense, driving was his escape it was his way to cope he would stand there and wash that car three times a day if needed haha like that kind of love, he does not drink, smoke, he does not like going out, he has ZERO enemies and I understand why, he is the most mature person I know, he even has super old guys stop him all over asking him for advice etc, he is super respected all over. And to this day he keeps fit (I don't know how he can still work out and things going through that cause id go depressed and become fat and lazy), him and I have been sending in his resume thousands of times in the past year, and nothing, he had a professional high end career.

I study full time and now and then take on some random after hours work things. He even tried for it too but no luck

I don't even want to mention what I tried to do online to try and help him get a car again. I really don't know what to do. Like he doesn't deserve this shit its all cause of that ungrateful family. I want to help him but I don't know what, I would do a gofundme thing but I think it is for a stupid reason for most people, and I would humiliate him I know, cause I brought it up many times and his words "I`m a man, men don't go begging for a handout, I worked for what I had, and now I lost it, I need to just do that all over again" and I can see the hope is dying in his mind heart and soul, the way he sits up and smiles when he hears some exhausts noises driving past. It breaks my heart badly, he would do prom drives for FREE WHO DOES THAT, he let kids rev his car and take them for drives. Like what, thats why I love him so much. I cant save up enough to make it happen for him. Any help / advice would be needed, I know I will get hate for this but I really had to get this off my chest and maybe there is someone who can assist with pointing me in some direction or whatever cause I really do not know