Feeling done with a friendship
I am seeking for some advice of how to break it gently to a friend that I feel like I have outgrown friendship/no longer wish to be friends. I realized in the last few months that there are certain things I should’ve set boundaries for a long ago and didn’t and now I am done with a friendship out of pure anger and frustration (with how they’re treating me and that I let this go on so long ). I don’t feel like things can be resolved as the other person has a lot of deep, rooted issues that they are ignoring and using as excuses for poor behavior. This person has also expressed undiagnosed ADHD and reaction sensitivity… which based on knowing them for 10+ years, it makes a lot of sense. How can I break up with his friend without pointing the finger at their issues but also take responsibility for my not setting boundaries? I know for the other person this is going to be painful regardless, but I would like to be as sensitive as possible. Could I use the “it’s not you it’s me”?
… I tried to slowly ghost this person (which I hated and felt crappy about) but I’m also realizing in the last few months, this person is a bit codependent on me and didn’t take the hint.