My ex of nearly 4 years and I broke up in February, and I got my dx of Autism in the summer of 2024. After that, my unmasking journey has been pretty rough on myself (and on that relationship too, I admit). Long story short, I’d just graduated with my masters in social work right before my dx and had my whole life planned around getting a job. Burnout obliterated that vision, but ex was still hellbent on who I was pre-dx/masked.
Fast forward to now, and after our breakup, ex continually breaks no contact and now claims it was all my autism that started the relationship to end. I’m still disgusted by it; I do know I changed a lot, and everything became 100x harder due to unmasking, so I get why it could feel like giving up to the partner… but in reality I tried harder, but also built strong boundaries for myself.
Has anyone had anything like this happen to them? I’m still perplexed and disgusted by their behavior. I tried so hard, but you can’t educate someone into having enough decency and empathy like what was needed.