Gosh, I’m tired.
I 22 female I am currently living with my parents, which includes my little brother who is 17 years old about to be 18 in a few months and he is a junior in high school. He plays sports in high school, and he has practice typically just in the evening and it’s about sometimes an hour or an hour and a half long. Not very long. Mind you in high school I was in band and I was also in tennis. And when I came home, they expected me to do my chores. Anyways, I graduated high school and moved to across the country for university. Every time I would come home I noticed the house was not organized or clean because my mom worked odd hours and my brother did not clean because it was not being enforced. Essentially when I left for college, my parents got soft. It’s a phenomenon that most people experience if they have multiple siblings that have a significant age gap like me and my brother. It’s just weird because growing up I know that if the house wasn’t clean or organized, it would always be a big fuss with my mom and dad but then after I left, it became not that big of a deal. Anyways, fast-forward to today and I’m currently going into a masters program. I actually start this Friday which I’m super excited about. But I told my brother that we should get a chore chart going because that would actually help with the chores since I’m the only one who cleans, cooks, and does the laundry and stuff because I don’t have a job obviously….it’s the least I could do. I don’t know what my workflow would look like quite yet, so I was just trying to be proactive and get a chore chart going. WELL HE WAS NOT HAVING IT!! He told me when he comes home he’s tired from practice and he doesn’t feel like he’s able to do any chores. I get it. I really do life can be exhausting especially if you play a contact sport like football. But after resting for a little bit, he should be able to help. He is not taking any advanced or AP classes. He is in regular classes and he never brings homework as far as I know home…. My mom says she likes that idea and my dad of course is taking his side as he usually does…. Anyways, my dad told me I was doing too much even though I explained to him that I’m starting my program on Friday and I wanted to be proactive. So I guess they do expect me to do all the chores, cook, clean, but also managing a masters program. I don’t know what to do and I’m just really tired. The only idea I have is just to bring it up later maybe?? Like later this week!! Idk 🤷♀️