My (56f) sponsee (62f) writes out her food plan diligently every day. But by the end of the day, she’s changed her food significantly. We’ve discussed committing to her food plan, but she just doesn’t. This is happening every single day.
She’s frustrated that she’s not seeing progress with “her efforts”, and she does not believe it’s related to the food changes she makes daily, sometimes multiple times a day. I believe it’s directly related, but she just won’t see it.
When she changes her food plan, she says it’s because she “went out to eat unexpectedly” or she “didn’t feel like having that”. We have discussed one day at a time, one meal at a time mindset, to no avail.
She does the step work and journaling very consistently, but she just won’t stop making significant pivots each day with her food. While her choices are mostly in the realm of abstinence, I’m at a loss as to how to drive home the importance of sticking with her food plan.
How would you go forward with this person? I have never had a sponsee do this repetitively and consistently. I believe really she needs the help and I can also see why past sponsors have let her go. Yet, I feel like my HP is guiding me to really work with her on this.
Any advice or suggestions?