I am the mother of two young kids. 3yrs and 1yrs. I do everything, from morning wake up to going to bed with the kids and everything in the house. My husband contributes absolutely nothing to the kids or the house. I’m exhausted mentally and physically. It makes me resent motherhood and having children.
My husband says he can’t possibly help me because he works a lot. He runs a business 6 days a week and leave in the morning before we get up and comes home when everyone’s in bed so I understand why he’s not helping as I’m still on maternity leave he needs to make up our lost money. But we have been talking about me not going back to work at all now so I can be home and do everything I’m doing and he can continue to work the hours he works.
The idea terrifies me I don’t want to do it but I can’t work and do everything on my own like daycare pickup and drop offs and every thing at home all on my own. My job is a 9-5. I feel trapped by motherhood.
I think my husband also needs to help out with the kids but he says it’s just not possible because he makes more money then me his job is more important then mine. I still make good money just not as much as him. I think it’s not fair I sacrifice my whole life and career for the kids we both wanted. I have degrees and a great position to go back to.
I don’t know I’m just so lost. How do other people manage work and kids with no support?
Or should I keep pushing my husband for more equality in parenting and at home? It just seems hopeless like I’m on my own.