New teenager parent
As the title says i have recently been thrown into the role of a caregiver for my teenage niece (18). She had a fall out with her parents, which included her dad hitting her and asked to move in with us. For context I am married and have two kids of my own (5 &2). It has been only FOUR days and I don't think I am cut out for this. I have a full time job, doing a higher degree part time, preparing for a promotion (so work is extra busy) and my husband often travels which means I have period of solo parenting and running the house.
My niece has been treated this house like some holiday inn, she sleeps in till late and then does nothing around the house all day but sit on her phone in the internet. She sleeps at crazy hours of the night and will not be bothered to help with ANYTHING around the house. If you do ask her she will only do that exact one thing and go back to her phone. My husband is currently out of town and I have been very busy with work. As you can imagine I haven't had the time to even talk to her properly since I'm gone before she wakes and after work in busy cooking, bathing the kids and getting them ready for bed. At that stage I tend to pass out and wake up later in the night to find my kitchen not even cleared much less the food packed away. Food that she also ate by the way. I have now set out some ground rules and told her she needs to respect the home I have and be an active part of this household. What is shocking is that I know my sister let her do chores at home. Things she was responsible for and it baffles me that she will see me work my ass off and sit around and not even offer to help wash dishes. I have so much going on and so overwhelmed that I have no idea how to even deal with this new dimension to our family