A "Wake-up call" spell for someone?
TW for dysfunctional family/abuse, mods if this post is against the rules feel free to take this down. Forgive me for any grammar errors or unclear words as english is not my first language.
Hi anyone who might read this; so as the title says. I want to cast this spell on my father and I don't want to hurt anybody with this spell; but as for this situation, my mother who is our abuser is always the one to start fights within our family and has abused both me and my father since I was a child and even when divorce is mentioned it has never gone through. Note that I am personally in therapy for this kind of trauma, and I've also urged therapy for both of my parents but they both refused, claiming there's "nothing wrong with them or their relationship".
My father has come up to me frustrated by having fights with our abuser many times, and I kept asking him "Aren't you tired of her hurting you?" without trying to bring up divorce again, since it's a tough topic for him, and he might go on a mental breakdown if divorce is mentioned to him again. Even though he admitted to me that he doesn't actually truly love his wife because of the dysfunction, he told me he's "fine" and that he'll put up with her just because she's mentally ill and that she has no one else, even though clearly he's not fine from this relationship. He seems to be so beaten down, depressed and clearly frustrated after fights with her. I'm guessing he's too attached to her.
I'm wondering if there's a spell I can do to sort of "wake him up" and detach from his attachment to his wife, because this is clearly hurting him but he is too stubborn to do something about his pain. I've seen something about a mirror spell somewhere using a picture of him and a white candle but I'm afraid I lost the video of the spell tutorial.. Do you have any spell recommendations I can do for this? Thank you for reading