u/Camabear

Just had a healthy baby but my family still feels incomplete. Does it ever get better?

I’m more than a year out from losing my baby. Last month we had a healthy baby girl and I’m so thankful for her.

This is our second living child. I always only wanted 2 children but now I feel like my family isn’t complete.

How do I differentiate this feeling of incompleteness from my grief of not having my second child with us vs actually wanting a 3rd child? Would this feeling even go away if I did have a 3rd child or will I just feel this way forever regardless of how many children I have. Or is this just postpartum hormones messing with my emotions?

My prior pregnancies have been rough on me physically, pre-eclampsia, GD, c-section hemorrhage. My husband, who previously wanted 3 children, doesn’t want to see me go through pregnancy again and is already looking up vasectomy clinics. Now I feel like I have a time crunch to work out my feelings and I don’t even know where to begin.

Anyone else feel this way? How did you work through these feelings?

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u/Camabear — 22 hours ago