Seeking advice on how to support my girlfriend
Hey all,
Since I'm not depressed myself, and this is so difficult for someone like me to understand and for someone who is depressed to explain, I turn to you hoping y'all can share some guidance or perspectives on what's happening to my girlfriend, and how I can support her.
She's been battling depression for years, since long before we met. She's tried so many different types of medication, even TMS, and she says nothing really worked. She stopped taking her meds for a while, and has been back on welbutrin for a couple of weeks.
Personally, I felt like I saw a change - things happening at work didn't seem to hit her as hard anymore, and she seemed in better spirits overall. Though I know the image one projects isn't necessarily reflective of how one feels inside, it seemed like progress to me.
Yesterday she increased her dose from a single XL 150 to two per day. She felt off all day, and experienced things that she said never having experienced in her past, with all the medication she took. She described it as "my core feels detached and uncaring about things, but it's surrounded by a layer of dark thoughts and anxiety" and also said her brain hurts. It's also making her brain feel foggy and forget things, which it did in the past and isn't necessarily new, but apparently neither of those things are a know side effect of welbutrin?
I'm aware the body can react pretty strongly to changes in dosage and that it can take days or weeks for the brain to adapt to the chemicals, but does this sound like what's going on here? She wants to stop the medication because she hates her job and has a pretty high-stakes job interview for a new position coming up, and doesn't want to have brain fog for that, which I completely understand, but I'm worried stopping could also have an adverse effect.
I feel helpless in how I can support her since this is something I'll never understand. She's clearly struggling inside and I just feel helpless. Aside from being there for her physically and emotionally, what's the best way to support her? I feel like I ask too many questions to try and understand how she's feeling, but at the same time, I'm so worried about her.
Any thoughts on what I could do?
Thanks