u/CSachen

I'm a man who just turned 30 years old last January, and I've never had a girlfriend.

I love myself and who I am and think that I would be a wonderful partner. I'm very much a clean blank slate. Good university. Good career. Zero debt. No tattoos. No piercings. No addictions. No body counts. No relationship baggage. I'm probably the most physically fit among my friends. I run outside most days and I do sets of pullups at the park. I keep my appearance and my living space neat and tidy.

My friends would describe me as quirky, adventurous, or zany. I like to make people laugh. I value kindness and empathy, and I listen to problems and do my best to make them feel better. I'm not afraid to go against the flow and defend unpopular opinions. I hate bullying and badmouthing people behind their backs.

There are so many things I want from life. I want a family to love and cherish. I want a beautiful wife and a baby boy. I want to grow old together. When I was a kid, I thought this was normal. But at 30, I question whether it's even achievable.

I've gone through different internet guides and here's all the things I've tried in the last 4 years:

1. Going on dating apps. I'll get a match every month. They all fizzle out for one reason or another. We would plan dates together, but so far all 3 times, my match never showed up to the location and would stay silent or unmatch. And some others seem completely uninterested in meeting and only want to text.

2. Going to singles events on Meetups. I'll meet some cool people and get their Instagram. When I DM them later if they want to get lunch on a weekend or visit a pop-up exhibit, they read my message but never respond, leaving only the dreaded "Seen" tag.

3. Going to a bar and approaching people. Basically the same experience as the singles Meetups.

4. Language class. I took a few after-work language classes. Everyone who was taking classes seemed extremely busy and would go straight home that I couldn't even arrange for an after-school group dinner.

5. Run club. Board games club. Anime club. Cultural exchanges. In my personal experience, all the women who were regulars were already married.

Especially for a popular Shonen Jump anime like JJK, which is popular and mainstream with teenagers.

The character in question is Kinji Hakari, a third-year high school student, which would make him 19yo? He's portrayed as one of the top-grade fighters, which definitely means he's cool enough to have an impact.