I was married for 25 years before my husband passed away. After 3 years, I started dating and became sexually active without a condom. My partner told me he had been tested for STD’s months before and I was happy to know that he took his health seriously. I asked had he been tested for herpes and he said no because he knows he already has oral herpes. Now because of my past with my husband and I know that my partner has had many partners, I decided to also get tested for STD’s so I know we are both good. My partner was upset that I decided to get tested because he felt I didn’t trust him and I was insinuating that he gave me an STD which wasn’t the case at all, I was just looking out for my health too.
I received my results that disclosed I was positive for HSV2. I cried and tried to process what that means for me, with him, and possible other relationships going forward if it ends with him. I honestly don’t believe that I contracted it from him but from my husband because for years my husband was unfaithful and has given me STD’s several times.
Now comes to the point that I have to tell my partner. His negative attitude toward the whole testing part made it hard and he was even disrespectful so I had to build the courage to tell him because I kept telling myself it’s the right thing to do, be honest. After our last conversation, we weren’t calling each other and it became text communication. Needless to say I told him and immediately let him know that I doubt very seriously that he gave it to me because of the timing. I don’t think that I’ll hear from him again but all this is unfair and unfortunate for me. Now, after receiving the results I feel better that I decided to get tested so I know my status going forward even if it’s not with him. I’m just so sad that this is something else I have to deal with on top of everything that I’ve already been through.