So I'm a new homeowner and admittedly I should have done something sooner for this, but was wondering if I could get any advice on how to regrade the soil that has eroded on the side of our home? Currently working on getting someone to install gutters for us, but just wondering if there was anything else I could do on my end to help with the issue depicted in the picture, thanks!
I (31M) have been trying my best to hold onto a friendship I've had for several years. We used to be part of a larger friend group but it unfortunately (or maybe fortunately) dissolved due to toxic friendship dynamics. I still held on to most of these friends after it imploded, but one friend in particular has been making me question whether I should continue it or not. I'll call her Kim to make it easier to follow and my now ex-friend Sam
In short, Kim helped me snap out of a toxic friendship I had with Sam that was taking advantage of my feelings for them. Kim mentioned how I was being "their little bitch" and how I was being blind to how much she was manipulating me. That really struck me and eventually got me to finally put an end to that toxic friendship and move on.
After that friendship ended though Kim continued being THEIR friend, and said that it was because they never did anything directly to THEM. Kim knew what Sam did to me was wrong, but basically used that reasoning to stay friends with her. This obviously made things a little difficult for us to keep hanging out as I was basically taking turns with who Kim had time to hang out with at the time.
Eventually I ended up moving away and now it takes about 5 hours for me to drive down and visit, so realistically I'm only able to visit just a few times a year now. Despite that though I've always made an effort to try and message them when I can and also call them to catch up. They're not the type to reach out often but I've always been okay with that.
She's stayed friends with Sam though after all this time and since they live closer together they obviously have been able to hang out way more than I ever could, and I can't help but feel jealous whenever I see her make a post on IG with them hanging out.
Then today while I'm on a phone call with Kim they mention how they're doing another get together with some friends and when I asked if I could attend she said she didn't invite me originally cause she didn't think I'd be comfortable with Sam being there. I mentioned that it wouldn't bother me and that I can act cordial with them if they were okay with that too.
She ended up saying it would be fine for me to come then but now I'm sitting here wondering if this is even a good friendship to maintain either seeing at how she's been seemingly treating our friendship as lesser than with my ex-friend. It just feels so....back handed I suppose? I've been telling myself id get over it eventually but time and time again it just starts to get at me and this most recent phone call just has me questioning even more if this is still worth holding onto. I don't have many other friends left and trying to hold on to the ones I still have, but am I actually hurting myself more by trying to hold on to this particular one?