u/BuyGroundbreaking256

I am in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend for the past 8 months and we met online 2 years ago and we liked each other so after months of talking we gave it loads of thoughts before getting in a relationship cause we know that we can't meet for the next few years and many people will judge us for our situation of having never met but we know we love each other and so does our families but due to some situations we cant meet

Now here's the thing we both constantly reassure each other and talk every time we get and basically think of the future. I did told my friends and she told her closer friends cause she's uncomfortable for being judged and same does apply to us posting each others cause we don't have a single photo together

Now the thing is through out the years there are some special days that people post with their girlfriends or just post their girlfriend to make them feel special and she looks at them and sees that I didnt posted her and she gets upset.

I do wanna post her but even if as much as i dont care about people judging but she does and she's an empath too. Not only that but that's the only reason that she says that she doesn't post me is because of the people judging her and yet she finds a way to indirectly post me, either my baby photo or my paragraphs on the monthly anniversary sometimes or me helping her. Not only that she knows how to make me feel loved and special either by putting me as her wallpaper or many different way.

now the thing that has been confusing and bothering me it is that i isnt that i never posted her cause when we first started to date I did posted her once without telling then a few when she mentioned her photo on her story on instagram and even made an entire highlight about it. but then one day due to few people judging us she told me to delete the highlight and not tell about us to people much. About me i really don't care about people judging me but she does and i respect it. And yet she gives me hints to post her by sending a reel or putting certain things on her stories which i do see but i get trapped in this dilemma that should i post or not because on one side these trends does require a couple photo and when she was the one who told me not to do that and when i mention that to her she gets even more upset. Also she has this thing that she hates it when someone puts efforts after she said or out of pity.

So i am always confused what if i did it she'll be really happy or mad because i am only able to do it because she told me to

Not only the posting thing but she does know loads of ways to make me feel special and she knows what to de when and how to make it special and i want to do the same but i cant figure out what to do and what not to do because we decided not to spend money on each other atleast till we can have our own money so i cant do that either

I am really sorry guys if you found some of the grammar wrong and sentences dont make sense because firstly its 2 in the morning and secondly i lack sentence formation to put these kinds of things into words

i really love her and i do want to treat her the best way i can and i need some good advice to figure the "making her feel special" thing out

I am in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend for the past 8 months and we met online 2 years ago and we liked each other so after months of talking we gave it loads of thoughts before getting in a relationship cause we know that we can't meet for the next few years and many people will judge us for our situation of having never met but we know we love each other and so does our families but due to some situations we cant meet

Now here's the thing we both constantly reassure each other and talk every time we get and basically think of the future. I did told my friends and she told her closer friends cause she's uncomfortable for being judged and same does apply to us posting each others cause we don't have a single photo together

Now the thing is through out the years there are some special days that people post with their girlfriends or just post their girlfriend to make them feel special and she looks at them and sees that I didnt posted her and she gets upset.

I do wanna post her but even if as much as i dont care about people judging but she does and she's an empath too. Not only that but that's the only reason that she says that she doesn't post me is because of the people judging her and yet she finds a way to indirectly post me, either my baby photo or my paragraphs on the monthly anniversary sometimes or me helping her. Not only that she knows how to make me feel loved and special either by putting me as her wallpaper or many different way.

now the thing that has been confusing and bothering me it is that i isnt that i never posted her cause when we first started to date I did posted her once without telling then a few when she mentioned her photo on her story on instagram and even made an entire highlight about it. but then one day due to few people judging us she told me to delete the highlight and not tell about us to people much. About me i really don't care about people judging me but she does and i respect it. And yet she gives me hints to post her by sending a reel or putting certain things on her stories which i do see but i get trapped in this dilemma that should i post or not because on one side these trends does require a couple photo and when she was the one who told me not to do that and when i mention that to her she gets even more upset. Also she has this thing that she hates it when someone puts efforts after she said or out of pity.

So i am always confused what if i did it she'll be really happy or mad because i am only able to do it because she told me to

Not only the posting thing but she does know loads of ways to make me feel special and she knows what to de when and how to make it special and i want to do the same but i cant figure out what to do and what not to do because we decided not to spend money on each other atleast till we can have our own money so i cant do that either

I am really sorry guys if you found some of the grammar wrong and sentences dont make sense because firstly its 2 in the morning and secondly i lack sentence formation to put these kinds of things into words

i really love her and i do want to treat her the best way i can and i need some good advice to figure the "making her feel special" thing out