The issue centres around a parenting agreement between myself and my ex.
Within that agreement, we both agreed that a person named bob (his adult step son) would not be around our daughter (age6) while she was in his care.
That clause was included following concerns that had been raised at the time of sexual assault on his sister when he was a teen and she was a child (she sent messages she is also adult) and it was something op mutually agreed to through lawyers daughter would not be around bob.
This agreement has now been broken repeatedly and bob has been working at op property, daughter has visited his house etc.
Op thinks bob is polite and a good person.. they have disowned daughter who came forward saying she’s a liar. But I can’t prove either and as an adult why does bob need to be around- that was the easiest remedy that lawyer for child supported.
The situation has become emotionally difficult because I feel caught in the middle of something I did not create. Concerns were raised to me and them and as a mother, I felt I had a responsibility to take them seriously rather than ignore them. Since then, I have felt ongoing pressure to minimise or move past the issue, despite the fact the agreement was put in place for a reason and nothing has changed.
What has made it harder is that I no longer feel there is a shared understanding or consistent respect for the agreement itself and I don’t know what to do.
Op only has her twice a week and one weekend of a month but I’m just emotionally exhausted from being accused and blamed for this by them that it’s my fault.
What would you do?