Choosing between work or family?
I am 30 year old banker living in Mumbai, India. I left home at 18 and have only been able to back to visit once a year (not on holidays). I am currently residing in tier 1 city and am in a long distance marriage due to my and my partners work commitments. (Note: I am the primary earner but my partner's job comes with perks)
Despite both me and my partners working hard we have not been able to build substantial savings or investment.
Now as we turn 30, I am starting to contemplate if me choosing my career and being ambitions is serving me long term. I am now wondering if i should quit my job and go stay with my partner and plan our family.
I am constantly alone, frustrated, burnt out and having to celebrate all festivals and milestones alone. We both (partner and i) arr doing great at work and we decided to continue this arrangement for another 10-15 years.
However, recently I've been dissatisfied with my job and the life i built here. The independence i wanted since i was a child is costing me my life and i am missing out on everything. Currently i only have a choice between work or family. No combinations is fitting where i can have both with a slight compromise.
The other side of this is that i love what i do. While it can be done remotely, most Indian organisations are vary of offering remote opportunities. I also know that I'll not be able to handle being completely dependent on my partner and will have to seek some other form of employment which will not do justice to my education and hard work.
Feeling clueless. Seeking advise from others in similar situation.